Experienced relationship counsellors working with couples, families and individuals in Wokingham- near Bracknell, Crowthorne and Ascot- and Reading - near Henley and Oxford
Our names are Michaela Reeves , Diane Aspell and Fay Hanniker, and as a team of relationship counsellors, we have over 30 years’ experience working with people facing challenges in their relationships and facilitating change with individuals, couples, young people and families. We are all professionally trained relationship counsellors and we have been providing relationship counselling and psychosexual therapy, also known as sex therapy, in Wokingham and Reading for the past 12 years. The term relationship counselling covers our work as couple counsellor, family counsellors and counselling with individuals facing relationship challenges. We work with clients at all stages of relationships whether this is at the beginning, during or at the end of a relationship.
Our commitment is to provide counselling in a safe, confidential and non-judgemental environment. To read more about this, please click on Frequently Asked Questions above.
We each understand the role of the relationship counsellor as being to work alongside our clients, whether they come as individuals, couples or families. We work with our clients to help them make sense of what is happening, or has happened, in their relationships and to find strategies to do things differently going forward. As relationship counsellors we seek to help our clients understand their relationships so that they can make informed decisions about their future.
Some of our clients come to relationship counselling to address a specific issue or incident that is causing concern or distress. Or it might be that they want to work through a particular issue that has never been resolved and every so often resurfaces to cause upset. We work with people who want to move away from feeling 'stuck' in their couple or family relationships or who feel overwhelmed by difficult feelings such as frustration, shame, anger, hurt and confusion.
As relationship counsellors, we work with individuals, couples and families who are experiencing issues such as:
You can read more about individual counselling with a relationship focus, couple counselling, and our work with family or young people by clicking on the Counselling button above.
As couple counsellors, we all also offer counselling with a sexual focus in Wokingham and Reading. Michaela is also a highly trained psychosexual therapist so she offers the particular area of expertise of psychosexual therapy (sex therapy ). She works in in Wokingham only and helps individuals and couples facing issues around their sexual relationship. Please click on Sexual Issues in the menu above to read more about the difference between these two types of therapy.
We are all members of professional bodies including being registered on the BACP ,(British Association of Psychologists and Counsellors) Voluntary Register. For further information about our individual qualifications please click About Us in the menu above. We work in strict adherence to our professional bodies' code of ethics. To ensure we offer relationship counselling and psychosexual therapy of the highest professional standard, we all regularly undertake ongoing professional development activities and also all hold the appropriate DBS checks.
How To Find Us
Our relationship counselling practices are located in Wokingham where Fay and Michaela work, and Reading where Diane works. These are within easy reach of Crowthorne,, Bracknell, Ascot, Sandhurst and Henley. We have also worked with individuals,couples and families looking for counselling or psychosexual therapy from further afield - places such as Camberley, Pangbourne, Burghfield, Mortimer, Oxford, Newbury and Basingstoke. Some of these clients chose Berkshire Relationship Group because they wanted counselling some distance from home. However,the majority sought out our services on the recommendation of friends / family who had themselves previously been our clients
Between us, Fay and Michaela, are able to offer counselling in Wokingham during the day from Monday to Friday with the earliest appointment being 8 a.m. We also offer evening appointments on weekdays - Monday through to Thursday in Wokingham with the last appointment finishing at 8 pm on Mondays and Thursdays and 9.30 pm on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. The last appointment on Fridays finishes at 5p.m.
Diane is able to offer appointments in Reading on Monday through to Friday between 8 a.m and 8 p,m. She also works on Saturday mornings in
You can read our individual profiles by clicking on About Us in the menu above. To contact us individually or as a team please click How To Contact Us on the menu bar above.
Through our blog, we explore some of the issues that we work with as counsellor specifically trained in relationship counselling and , in Michaela's case, Psychosexual Therapy. We have tried to include a range of concerns that relationship counselling can help address - whether this is through individual or couple counselling , family counselling or sex therapy.
Often people come to couple counselling almost as a last resort. Sometimes as a couple, they have tried for some time to work through difficulties. In other situations, one partner may have felt for a while that things really aren't right and the relationship can't carry on. When they tell their partner, they may expect their partner to be equally unhappy and so are shocked to find the other person has been thinking that while things haven't been great, in time they'll just work themselves out and that they really want the relationship to work. Our first post looked at two of the questions often asked by people thinking about couple counselling, namely : 'Can couple counselling really help? ' and ' Is it too late?' The short answer is that, Yes, in many cases counselling can and does make a significant difference to couple's relationships.
We have also looked at one of the main reasons that people come to couple counselling: the breakdown of communication. Our experience is that difficulties in communication are sometimes just about lack of time or about the timing of conversations. We offer some ideas as to how this might be addressed. Another cause of communication breakdown is to do with the couple dynamic and this is where working with a couple counsellor can really help. Couple counselling can help identify helpful and unhelpful patterns of behaviour and ways of interacting so the couple can move forward to communicate in a better way.
Another post looks at a time of year that can be stressful for families. One that might be particularly relevant at the moment might be the one where we focus on managing Christmas. Christmas can be a very difficult time as trying to manage and meet the expectations and hopes of different generations and family members can create tension and stress. We look at ways in which you might create the memories you want rather than the Christmas that leaves you feeling emotionally drained . Some of the principles we suggest can also be applied to managing expectations at other times which can create stress for families, such as holidays or big family gatherings.
A post looking at one of the issues covered in Physcosexual Therapy (sex therapy) explored what can be quite a difficult issue for some couples, namely - low desire for sex .We hoped to make it accessible by taking a relatively light hearted look at how this might be addressed. This is an area of work that Michaela, who works as a psychosexual therapist as well as a couple counsellor, has particular expertise in.
Our blog also includes a couple of posts looking at a very different area of relationship counselling. As part of the work we do with couples who are parents and who are coming to, or are at the end of their couple relationship, we look at how children might be affected by separation / divorce . Parents are often very concerned about how their children will react and whilst it is impossible to fully anticipate how children will respond, there are parental behaviours that can support children and other behaviours which will have the opposite effect. The way parents manage their separation is key to the way children react. We offered some suggestions as to how parents who are no longer together as partners might parent together in such a way as to minimise the impact on their children.
Our next post followed on from the previous one by focusing on the loss experienced by teenagers when their parents are going through the process to separate / divorce , or have formally separated. Drawing on the stories we have heard in our work as relationship counsellors working with young people and families, we have created 3 monologues that chart one fictional teenager's journey through three stages of the loss cycle.
To read the articles please scroll up to the sidebar on this page and you'll see where to click onto the post.